On Facebook the other day, a friend posted some photos of his son in his prom tuxedo, very handsome in a red bow tie and cummerbund, with the proud mother fussing over him. That prom photo is one of the required rites of spring, it seems, and we’ll see lots of similar poses from friends with children that age over the next few weeks.
And in another of the required rites, one of the top comments will be something along the lines of “They grow up so fast!”
But do they really? This week, we’re talking about some false truths, axioms that sometimes aren’t as true as they seem.
And “they grow up so fast” is one of them.
One reason we shoot those pictures of our children in their tuxes and formal gowns is because those days are so memorable, like the first day of school and other milestones.
And even for the most devoted uncles and aunts and friends of the family, the gaps between those photos can be pretty large, giving the impression that these kids were riding trikes yesterday and are driving away tonight.
But there are thousands of days and nights between those photos, thousands of diapers, permission slips, piano lessons, dental bills and dirty dishes.
In a completely different context, Abraham Lincoln said “The best thing about the future is that it comes one day at a time.”
That might be the best thing about parenting, too, that children don’t grow up very fast, but one day at a time.
What “False Truths” do you wish we re-thought?