Those aging Boomers? Help from Amy Hanson

Amy Hanson may be the best-prepared person in the country, right now, to help congregations turn the tidal wave of Baby Boomer senior citizens into an opportunity for growth and transformation.

Her scholarship includes a master’s degree in gerontology, followed by a doctorate in human sciences from the University of Nebraska. She has worked in congregations and retirement communities, has a deep commitment to her faith—and now has distilled a wealth of research into a handy new book, Baby Boomers and Beyond: Tapping the Ministry Talents and Passions of Adults over 50.” (That’s from the prestigious Jossey-Bass Leadership Network imprint.) Amy regularly teaches via workshops and talks—and is sure to be doing a whole lot more of that as Boomers pour across the age-65 threshold every day. (Hint to religious leaders reading this interview: Get her book now and, if you are moved to schedule time with Amy, do that soon before she her schedule fills completely.) She and her husband Jon, live in Omaha, Nebraska, with their two children. Amy is 37.

In Part 1, we shared an excerpt from Amy’s new book. Today, we welcome Amy for an interview.

HIGHLIGHTS OF INTERVIEW WITH AMY HANSON
ON ‘BABY BOOMERS AND BEYOND’

DAVID: Your work is changing and expanding all the time, it seems.

AMY: That’s right. I’m not on staff at a church right now. I am on the adjunct faculty at a variety of places. I work widely with pastors and leaders in congregations. I may talk at a convention or conference—or to a small gathering of pastors. I also do consulting. I sit with church staffs and work with them on how to hire somebody for this area—or on how to develop new programs. If someone is interested in reaching me, my website is the best place to connect with me: http://amyhanson.org/

DAVID: You write about the difficulty of finding terms that are accurate, that aren’t offensive and that people actually will accept. In the middle of your book, you write that “old, elderly, senior and golden-ager” are all negative words. But you also point out that we’ve simply got to find some useful terms to describe these huge waves of men and women. Throughout the book, you mention all kinds of categories: frail elderly people who are maybe age 85-plus; seniors who are roughly 70-plus; the “new old” who are 50 to 70 and are mostly Baby Boomers. So, did I just offend a bunch of people with those terms?

AMY: This is difficult and it can be confusing. For example, when someone hears that I work in older adult ministry, they’ll ask me: So, you visit nursing homes? That indicates to me that they have a very narrow focus on what older adult ministry is, shaped by how our popular culture sees aging.

There are frail elderly groups who have had declining health and need some assistance and care. They have some limitations, like maybe they can’t drive anymore. Visitation and transportation are major needs in their lives. Then, there’s this middle group primarily made up of the builder generation. They are OK with that title of “seniors” and they’re now about 70-plus in age. But even that group is so varied! Some have declining health while others are still running marathons. By and large, most churches have done something with this group but they probably haven’t recognized all of the potential there. Then there is this younger set, primarily aging Baby Boomers and also some people who were born in 1940 to 1945 who can identify with the Baby Boomers. They completely reject anything that smacks of being considered older or aging. Many of these are adults who are caring for their own older relatives at the same time they are preparing for their own retirement.

Why Bother to Talk about Aging Now?

DAVID: If they’re so stubborn about not even considering the aging process, then why start working with Baby Boomers as an aging population, at this point?

AMY: For one thing they are arguably the largest generation in our history. There are so many of them! We’ve never had this many older adults, people who are more than likely going to live 20 or 30 more years. And, whether they like to talk about it or not, they are aging. Now is the time to talk about this, because Boomers themselves are saying that they don’t want to approach later life like their parents did. They don’t want to go sit on a rock and fish or play shuffleboard. They want to invest their lives now in meaningful work. They want to continue making an impact with their lives. This is so important for pastors and congregational leaders to recognize. These people are not going to settle for potlucks and bus trips to Branson and folding church newsletters on Saturday mornings. If the church doesn’t engage these people, then these people are going to move elsewhere to find opportunities for work and other activities that they feel are making a positive difference in the world.

Aging is a God-ordained season in life. We all are aging, regardless of what our number is at the moment.

Busting Myths about Aging in America

DAVID: You’re really torpedoing major myths in this book. There’s so much packed between these covers that I really hope readers of this interview will go on, purchase the book—and read the whole thing. We’ve outlined some of your basic assumptions for readers, so let’s get into a few more specifics.

Last year, we featured a very popular series of articles with theologian Stanley Hauerwas and one entire article was about Hauerwas’ myth-busting claim: “For Christians, there is no Florida.” You make a similar argument in your book. Why is this myth such a problem for congregations?

AMY:  Our churches have bought into lots of myths—like the one about older adults wanting to slow down. We communicate that to people: As you get older, slow down and let younger people take over. This becomes a perpetuating problem. We need to be doing all we can to shine the light on folks who are 100 percent still active in our faith communities. We need to start making it more normal for people to continue as an active part of our communities, rather than assuming that it’s time to step aside.

That comment from Hauerwas makes me think of this: I used to tell people that retirement is never mentioned in the Bible. It turns out that there arguably is one passage: There’s a mention in Numbers. In that passage, the priests who turn 50 are supposed to stop doing the heavy work of carrying and the younger ones are supposed to take on that role. But, the older ones were not supposed to just coast and do whatever they wanted. They were to continue serving—and I want to attach to that helping and mentoring the younger ones. Never is there any implication that you get to a point in life where you get to coast and focus on yourself.

DAVID: In fact, the Bible is pretty harsh on people who feel they can reach that point, right?

AMY: I think we should teach more out of Luke 12 about the rich fool who builds up barns and feels he now can take it easy and be merry. He’s called a fool in Luke 12. Teachings like that are hard to swallow but they need to be communicated to adults in their 50s and 60s. If someone says they are a Christ follower, and they have given their life to Christ, there is no age parameter.

Busting Myths: The Terrifying Fear of Memory Loss

DAVID: You bust a bunch of myths. You shoot down, for example, the myth that older adults can’t adapt to change, that older workers are not as effective, that most older adults experience memory loss.

AMY: That’s a big one! It’s the No. 1 fear for Baby Boomers. They have interacted with people who have Alzheimer’s and they’re terrified about that. Birthday cards make fun of memory loss, but that is not an automatic thing just because you turn 70 or 80 or whatever age. In absence of disease, you’re not going to lose your memory.

The other one you mentioned that’s a huge problem in congregations is the myth that older adults can’t change. You’ve heard people say: She’s stuck in her ways. Assuming that immediately limits what a congregation can do and it strips away dignity from older people. The truth is: Older people actually have experienced and adapted to more changes in their lives than most of us who are younger. They can teach us about adapting to change, if we will turn to them.

DAVID: You emphasize another point that we talked about recently with both Marcus Borg and Kenda Creasy Dean: the need to cross generational lines in intentional ways in our congregations. We’ve moved in the direction of age segregation for far too long.

AMY: Absolutely. It’s been easier to segment people by age. Because it’s so easy to group people that way, we’ve grabbed hold of it. Our culture segments people that way, so why shouldn’t the church?

Over and over again through scripture, we learn that one generation should pass along to the next our wisdom through interaction in daily life. This matters so much, because the church is one of those rare places in our world where we have multiple generations coming together each week. The best way to share faith is through interaction, through conversation, through friendship. When we form friendships that cross generational lines, we break down stereotypes.

DAVID: Ideas for doing this? Marcus and Kenda both had some suggestions. In your book, readers will find ideas, but toss out an idea here.

AMY: One of the most effective ways is to get generations serving side by side—both swinging hammers for Habitat for Humanity or both cooking a meal together. Too often, we segregate age groups even in our service. Age differences don’t matter as much when everyone is working toward a common good.

DAVID: And that’s where we return to those ornery, opinionated, stubborn Baby Boomers. They’re a natural bridge, right?

AMY: Boomers were a little more “me” focused as they grew up, but now they have their own families and family relationships are very important to them. Now, they’re reaching a point in life when they’re thinking about leaving a legacy. What really mattered in their lives? I think this idea of forming intergenerational communities will resonate with Baby Boomers. They certainly don’t want to be locked away in a box.

Here’s the thing, though, as we all keep talking about this and everybody agrees these are great ideas: Why aren’t more churches doing this already!?!

What do we do with aging Boomers? Ask this Amy

For more than a week now, Baby Boomers have been pouring over the age-65 threshold like water at Niagra. (We just published a series on some of the emerging data; here’s a link to part 1 of the 5 parts that appeared in the OurValues website.)

Now, the urgent question is:
How are America’s congregations going to navigate this tidal shift?
Most houses of worship depend heavily on older members, but congregations tend to marginalize people over 65 and don’t take seriously their emerging needs. Like it or not, that situation is going to change when the elbows-out, self-centered, big-as-a-tidal-wave Boomers become the older generation in our congregations. Watch out!

Who do we turn to for help?
One of the smartest, best-prepared people in America—when it comes to helping congregations with this historic change—is Dr. Amy Hanson, prepared with scholarship in gerontology and lots of consulting work in congregations. She regularly shares her wisdom in lectures and workshops—and she has just put her latest findings in “Baby Boomers and Beyond: Tapping the Ministry Talents and Passions of Adults over 50 (Jossey-Bass Leadership Network Series),” which is now available from Amazon at a discount.

TODAY, we’re sharing a few words from Amy Hanson’s “Baby Boomers and Beyond”—to give you a feel for way she approaches these important issues. (Come back Wednesday and you’ll meet Amy in our weekly in-depth interview.) Overall, this 200-page book follows the format of Jossey-Bass’ Leadership Network series, which means it’s packed with data and analysis. Amy writes from a personal perspective, as well, from her own years in ministry. But any small sample from the book is just that—a tiny piece of what you’ll find inside the book. The following text is from the opening section of Amy’s book in which she lays out basic assumptions readers need to understand so they can appreciate her advice in the rest of the book. It’s great background for our interview with Amy.

THE NEW OLD, FROM “BABY BOOMERS AND BEYOND”
BY DR. AMY HANSON

The baby boom generation includes 78 million people born between 1946 and 1964 and reflects the boom in the birth rate after World War II. This is the largest generation in U.S. history and is made up of two cohorts—leading-edge boomers, born between 1946 and 1955, and trailing-edge boomers, born between 1956 and 1964. Leading-edge boomers were influenced by many social movements, including civil rights, modern feminism, antiwar protests, the sexual revolution, and drugs. Today, the majority of leading-edge boomers are facing the empty nest, providing care for aging parents, and dealing with retirement.

Because of their large numbers, as the boomers have progressed through life, their needs and desires have taken center stage. Whether it be the need for more diapers, more schools, or more jobs, this generation has been a driving force behind many of the changes we have experienced in our culture.

As a whole, members of this group were willing to leave behind some of the values of their parents and do things differently. In many ways, they have approached politics, fashion, child rearing, and religion differently than their parents. It should therefore come as no surprise that they are approaching the later years of life in a different way than the generations before them.

Research sponsored by Merrill Lynch indicated that 70 to 80 percent of boomers want to keep working in some fashion after they retire. Interestingly, most of them would like to find different jobs in areas of personal interest where they can make a difference in society. They want work that will allow them the flexibility to travel, spend time with family, participate in leisure activities, and continue learning.

Boomers also are very interested in staying young. They plan to remain active and involved with life and don’t want to participate in things that suggest they are aging. The idea of sitting in a rocking chair is not appealing to them.

(…)

Finally, as boomers approach their later years, they are searching for purpose. They may look for purpose through relationships, education, and even leisure pursuits. Others will seek to discover ways they can use their time and experience to serve the needs of those around them. They want their lives, as they get older, to be productive and meaningful—to really count for something. Rather than approaching these years as a time for slowing down, they view this period of life as a time of exciting possibilities.

WANT TO READ MORE?Baby Boomers and Beyond: Tapping the Ministry Talents and Passions of Adults over 50 (Jossey-Bass Leadership Network Series)” is now available from Amazon at a discount.

Want to See Amy’s Own Website? On Amy Hanson’s home site, she’s got a video clip you can view, a discussion guide to her new book and lots more.

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718 Creative Aging: Rethinking Retirement …

Think aging is a problem? Or, even worse: an illness? A disorder to be avoided at all costs? Are you nervous even discussing the “a” word?

Well, grab a copy of “Creative Aging” by Marjory Zoet Bankson and throw away that negative baggage. Right away you’ll be immersed in phrases like this: “this amazing new period of generativity,” “new wellsprings of creative work” and “a period of possibility.”

ReadTheSpirit has been urging writers and publishers to dig more deeply into the spiritual gifts of aging. Most of the thousands of books on aging, to date, are about—avoiding it. So, today, we’re very pleased to recommend Bankson’s book. If you’re not familiar with her work, she was a key leader in the “Faith At Work” movement. She’s a popular retreat leader and inspirational speaker in mainline Christian circles. She’s currently based at the National Cathedral in Washington D.C. And on top of all that? She’s an accomplished artist who also writes about the spiritual insights unlocked through the arts.

So, what does this extremely talented author know about the lives of real people like us? A lot. In fact, for this book, she conducted a series of fresh interviews with people in their 60s and 70s, which is the core age range she’s addressing here. Within the book, she leads us through eight steps of spiritual discernment and preparation for a creative new life in our older years.

What are these steps? She begins with two “r” words: rethinking and release—in other words, reorienting our minds and hearts to all the tough transitions involved in this period of life. Then, she writes about the new forms of creative energy we can discover—an exciting new vocational focus we can find at this stage in life—and she describes new ways of relating to our communities in our 60s and 70s.

Recently, ReadTheSpirit published a series of interviews with theologian Stanley Hauerwas in which he talked about some of these same themes. Here’s Part 1 in the Hauerwas series. Or, if you want to dive right into the heart of Hauerwas’ thoughts on aging, here’s Hauerwas on “For the Faithful, There Is No ‘Florida’.”

Another writer we recommend on this theme is Missy Buchanan, published by Upper Room Books. Last year, Missy Buchanan published “10 Tips for Better Ministry: Celebrating the Spiritual Gifts of Aging” in ReadTheSpirit.

Care to read some free chapters of
“Creative Aging” by Marjory Zoet Bankson?

Publisher Skylight Paths provides a Google-Preview of the book that lets you actually flip through more than 40 pages of the text. You can purchase a copy of the book on the same Skylight page.

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Great Summer Viewing: Feminist filmmaker Agnès Varda appears in PBS POV debut of ‘Beaches of Agnès’

AGNES VARDA surrounded by her production company, Cine Tamaris, in “The Beaches of Agnes,” showing on PBS and available on DVD. (Courtesy of the Cinema Guild.)“I’m playing the role of a little old lady, pleasantly plump and talkative, telling her life story. … Yet it is others who motivate me. … If we opened up people, we’d find landscapes … we’d find beaches.”
French filmmaker Agnè
s Varda introducing her film to us tonight on PBS.

Movie Review: Documentary film “Beaches of Agnès”

AGNES VARDA in “The Beaches of Agnes.” (Courtesy of the Cinema Guild.)FOR DECADES, MOVIE LOVERS AROUND THE WORLD have been intrigued by Agnès Varda, the only woman to muscle her way into the French New Wave that made directors like Francois Truffaut and Jean-Luc Goddard famous. Varda’s relatively few films often were described with words like “tough,” “acid” and “journalistic.” Her most famous film, “Cleo from 5 to 7,” seems like a self-indulgent slice of a vain young French woman’s chaotic life—until theatergoers ponder the underlying significance of the story. At 7 p.m., Cleo has a appointment to learn the results of a medical test for cancer. Countless men had their eyes opened by this potent dose of a woman’s life.

Varda never became a household name in the U.S. But generations of university students encountered Varda, usually introduced as a stubborn, prophetic voice for a woman’s point of view on the silver screen—years before women were taken seriously in Hollywood. In fact, she’s often refered to now as having been New Wave even before the male directors knew there was a “New Wave.”

Of course, many of us still doubt that American media gives women equal creative footing with men. Now at age 82, Varda’s tough, acid, journalistic voice is moving in an entirely new direction that needs some serious artistic activism. She’s still making movies. She’s still a feminist. But, now, her vocation seems to be focused on the process of aging. Even if this is the first moment you’ve encountered her name, it’s worth tuning in PBS’ POV (Point of View) documentary series’ debut tonight of “The Beaches of Agnes.” (Click here to visit the PBS website and check local TV listings.)

In the opening scenes of this documentary, Varda putters around the seaside, arranging mirrors on a beach. This all looks rather cumbersome and silly, perhaps like the appearance of an elderly person making their way slowly and awkwardly into a room for the first time. Then, we see tricks she achieves with her mirrors—and soon she’s spinning tale after tale from her childhood in the 1930s through World War II and beyond.

She is celebrating much more than her own life—as the opening quote indicates. She’s celebrating storytelling itself and she’s illustrating this through stories that continually surprise and move us. There are moments in this mature film when your eyes will pop. I guarantee that you won’t like all of the little tales she tells. But, if you watch and listen closely, you’ll discover that Varda is showing us something distinctive about the way women preserve and tell stories.

I don’t want to spoil the film, but one scene involves a visit to a childhood home where she lived as a little girl in the 1930s. The current owner of the house is a polite but rather boorish gentleman who insists, when she shows up with her camera, that he knows what will truly interest her viewers: antique model trains. As a one-time collector of miniature trains myself, I laughed out loud through that scene. This fellow thrusts one train after another in front of her cameras, certain that this is the story that will fascinate the world.

But, Varda figures out a way to pull us aside and explain that something else is truly important here. She wants to show us, instead, the places where deep memories arose in that house. She shows us the exact place where her mother stood and wept when she learned about the death of a beloved queen in the 1930s. And, she tells us how her sisters’ beds were arranged so they could share this cramped space—and share their lives.

What’s worth remembering in life? Not objects valued in museum catalogs, Varda insists, but memories of relationships that span our lives.

As all of us age, may we become storytellers like Agnès Varda!

You also can purchase a copy of “The Beaches Of Agnes” on DVD from Amazon.

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584: Top 10 News Stories Affecting … Our Communities and Congregations


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nyone recall the apocalyptic terrors of Y2K?
   
Anyone worried the world will end in 2012?
   
Time flies so quickly that we’re already closing out the first decade of this new millennium! (Note to math purists: Yes, a decade shouldn’t end until Dec. 31, 2010—but we collectively redefined our calendars for 2000 and we seem poised to do it again.)
   
In the cold, clear light of December 2009—rather than Y2K and 2012 as milestones framing our era—it seems that 9/11 and some future global warming tipping point seem to be the bookends of our global Zeitgeist in this decade.
   
Right now—we need your help! Why is it worth taking a moment to participate in our “Top News Stories” project this week? Because we all enjoy “Top 10” lists—and it’s a great discussion starter with family, friends, co-workers and neighbors.
   
This gets all of us thinking about the bonds that unite humanity around this small blue orb we call home. So, please, take a moment and engage with us this week! Your voice will echo to a national audience—and you’ll help us raise consciousness. Email us at [email protected]

HERE’S HOW TO GET INVOLVED …

   
TODAY, read our nominees below for “Top 10 News Stories That Affected Congregations in 2009.” That’s right—we’re only focusing on 2009 in our list. This is a joint project shared by ReadTheSpirit, the Alban Institute near Washington D.C. and the Dallas Morning News’ longtime expert in religion Sam Hodges.

   
ALSO TODAY, the OurValues.org Web site—coordinated by the University of Michigan’s Dr. Wayne Baker—is working on a purely values-based list of Top News Stories. Today, Dr. Baker gives us only his No. 1 pick—and hopes to interact with readers throughout the week.

   
AND FROM ALBAN TODAY, you can read Alban’s Top 10 list—prepared independently of our own list so that we can see how two completely different approaches might agree … and disagree.

   
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HERE ARE ReadTheSpirit’s

“TOP 10 STORIES OF 2009

THAT AFFECTED CONGREGATIONS”

   

1.) Economic Crisis: Millions of Americans are losing savings, jobs and homes. New research shows our 15 million unemployed neighbors are suffering through a spiral of long-term problems including loss of health care, emptying of retirement savings and even clinical depression. One of our readers in an Arizona church put it poignantly: “We’re seeing more empty, sealed envelopes placed in offering plates so no one will know some folks are not able to give.” Bottom line: For a huge number of Americans, life is changing permanently.
   
2.) Election of President Obama: Our readers overwhelmingly put this in our Top 10 list. (Over at OurValues.org, Dr. Wayne Baker places this 1st in his Top Values Stories.) For congregations, after eight Bush years, political and social attitudes either soared or were dashed, depending on each community’s point of view.
   
3.) Global Warming: Congregations have been flocking to environmental causes in recent years—but now there’s an eco-crisis we cannot solve by recycling or selling fair-trade coffee. This cosmic-scale, creation-centered crisis is a theological game changer.
   
4.) Aging America: Millions of Baby Boomers are turning 60, posing urgent problems from health-care plans to retirement policies. Now more than ever, it’s time to quit complaining that your congregation is “too old” and recognize that America itself is aging. A defining question in the new decade will be: What are the spiritual gifts of aging?
   
5.) Swine Flu: Yes, it was more of a scare than a catastrophe, but congregations experienced a nationwide jolt of anxiety over policies on communion rituals, social hours and hand shaking. In a scary world of emerging health threats and instant communication, the swine flu scare may be just the tip of an iceberg chilling our physical interaction.
   
6.) Pets and Spirituality: Evidence is everywhere that animals play a vital role in our daily spiritual adventures. Books and films like “Marley and Me” and “The Dog Whisperer” are cultural milestones. When a Los Angeles church started a regular pet-friendly service in 2009, the news rocketed across the country.
   
7.) Explosion of Facebook and Twitter: This is more specific than the general growth of new media. Specifically, social networking tools like Facebook and Twitter are a tidal wave of human connection. Anyone who says people don’t want to be part of congregations isn’t looking at these tools.
   
8.) Rise of the iPhone: More than 100,000 powerful “apps” are in millions of palms. Now, we have more connective power in our palms than most of us had a few years ago in our entire offices. Congregations are just beginning to tap this power, sometimes telling members not to turn off their cell phones during worship. One church urged attendees to text a prayer to shut ins during worship. Far more news centering on these tiny powerhouses is coming in 2010.
   
9.) Launch of Rob Bell’s Drops Like Stars World Tour: He’s been compared to a young Billy Graham—and that’s true, but not because Rob preaches like Billy or is building a Billy-style organization. Rather, like Billy in his heyday, Rob is rewriting the rules of evangelism. Drops Like Stars is a new style of multimedia, interactive revival staged in commercial theaters. Rob and his leadership team are using those innovations as a gateway. The last-ever Nooma DVD was released in 2009, paving the way for even more innovations in 2010.
   
10.) Major Prophets Telling Us to Accept Spiritual Diversity: This was the year when heavy hitters published memorable books telling us that we shouldn’t even try to “fix” Americans’ spiritual diversity. That list includes Barbara Brown Taylor’s “An Altar in the World,” Harvey Cox’s “The Future of Faith,” Father Thomas Keating’s new “Centering Prayer” multimedia kit, and Samir Selmanovic’s “It’s Really All About God.” These prophets are telling us: Our spiritually eclectic culture is not a matter of poor preaching that allowed people to wander in new directions. On the contrary—men and women are happy to find their own spiritual wisdom in a host of new places. Like it or not—that’s the shape of the future. Period.

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556: How can we help men and women in military service? PBS shows how!


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contributor to ReadTheSpirit, the Rev. Rod Reinhart from the Chicago area, last appeared in these pages when he took his entire community out into the streets for prayer.
    Over the years, Rod also has taught us many things about pastoral responses to the U.S. military. Rod is both a nationally known peace activist—and, in recent years, he has become an outspoken advocate for the dire needs of military families. Rod’s ministry proves that it is possible both to oppose war—and to work should to shoulder with men and women who’ve served their country.
    With Veterans Day 2009 approaching, we need no further evidence of the critical need to help these families than to follow the headlines about the terrible toll that stress is taking on military men and women.
    Our approach here at ReadTheSpirit stems from the same kind of balance that Rod and many other prophetic voices are showing us. Today, we are honoring the lives of men and women in service and looking for creative ways to actually make a difference in their lives. (Want to make your voice heard on this issue? Visit the OurValues.org page, focused on the military this week, and add a comment.)

Here’s our first major recommendation this week (and we’ve got 2 more coming Wednesday and Thursday) … MARK YOUR CALENDAR to see “The Way We Get By,” debuting on the PBS “POV” documentary series Wednesday, November 11, at 9 p.m. for Veterans Day. (Here’s an entire PBS Web page designed to help you spread the word about this important film.)

    This is the story of 200 volunteers in Bangor, Maine, who greet our service personnel as they leave for Iraq and Afghanistan—and as they come home again. Most of these volunteers are senior citizens and you’ll learn in the movie that the “Troop Greeters” program has become the most important activity in a lot of these volunteers’ lives.
    Since the current round of U.S. wars began, these volunteers have expressed more than 900,000 individual greetings. It turns out that Bangor’s eastern-most location on the map, and its airport’s ability to accommodate large numbers of troops, has turned Bangor into the last spot—and the first spot—of American soil that our troops see as they travel back and forth.
    As you watch this film, you’ll see how much this simple greeting process means to our men and women in service.
    If you’re not moved when you see the scenes of troops, just back in the U.S., grabbing a cell phone from the greeters and placing their first telephone calls to relatives—then you’ve got a heart of stone. Of course, if you’re reading this story right now, then you’re precisely the compassionate viewer that filmmaker Aron Gaudet had in mind when he devoted several years to documenting the greeters.

    Aron has a personal connection, because his mother Joan Gaudet—whose photo is at the top of our story today and who appears throughout the PBS film—is one of the most loyal greeters.
    When I reached Aron and Joan Gaudet by telephone to talk about this film, Joan expressed the same heart-felt balance that she outlines in the film itself: “A lot of people, I’m sure, don’t support the war—but they really do need to support the troops and their families.”
    Aron said, “As we started making the movie, the greeters explained that they have a list of rules to follow. The No. 1 rule is: Leave your politics outside the airport. We followed that rule in this movie.”
    This is not an anti-war film—and neither is it a gung-ho, pro-war movie. The central theme lies in its title: “The Way We Get By.” Aron spent as much time filming the volunteers’ personal lives—and the impact of this community-building activity on their sense of self worth—as he did shooting scenes in the airport.
    Love seems to flow in the air among these people: First, there’s the selfless, compassionate love that turns a network of often isolated senior citizens into a lively community. Then, there’s family love—as a member of the Gaudet family winds up deploying through Bangor herself. Finally, there was some romantic love, as well.
    Aron told me that his relationship with the chief interviewer in the documentary, Gita Pullapilly, grew quite serious over the years of producing this project. He told me, “Our relationship paralleled the movie. In the course of making it, we got closer and closer. We got engaged and, on October 16, we got married.” (Aron and Gita are in the photo at right.)
    At the end of our telephone conversation, Joan told me that the greeting effort has completely transformed her life. She went from anxiety about leaving the house alone after dark—to the point that she now encourages other older Americans to get involved in their communities.
    “I never dreamed that I’d be doing something so important as greeting the troops,” Joan told me. “Volunteering to help other people—wound up doing a whole lot for me. It got me out of the house. It helped me meet other people. It’s been great!
    “I want to say to everybody out there who has time to volunteer: If you have a chance, get involved in something! You don’t have to be a troop greeter. There are lots of good things you can do. Just try it! You won’t be sorry.”

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544: Readers (Like/Dislike) the Bishop … and Chime in on 3 Cosmic H’s …

WELCOME!
Once again, thanks to readers like you,
we’ve got your feedback to share …

THAT’S WHAT YOU GET WITH BISHOP SPONG … 
Some Say, “He’s right!”
Some Say, “He’s wrong!”

As Editor of ReadTheSpirit, I wasn’t kidding when I said that nearly all my reporting over the years on Bishop “Jack” Spong includes controversy. Readers love him—or loathe him.
    Reader David messaged from the “He’s wrong!” column:
    “Jack Spong represents just about everything that’s wrong with the Episcopal Church. It’s little wonder that the Vatican has established a formal mechanism for welcoming ‘uncomfortable’ Anglicans, as increasing numbers of them head for the exits. Spong was certainly instrumental in my leaving the Episcopal Church and becoming Orthodox. His interview with David Crumm confirms the wisdom of that decision.
    Thanks to David for your honesty. No question, Jack Spong intends to rattle the pillars of religious tradition and, as I said in our in-depth interview this week, he sometimes flat-out offends people.
    You weren’t alone. While out and about this week, another reader named Jim caught my elbow and said: “I can’t believe you’re giving that clown the time of day. … All he wants to do is belittle people of faith.”

BUT, we also heard from readers in the “He’s right!” column …
    Reader Dee kept it short and sweet: “Amen to what Bishop Spong writes!”
    And to quote two readers from each side, I’ll share another “He’s right!” note from Reader Debra, who is Jewish and noted how impressed she is to find a Christian theologian describing Heaven in a way that’s consistent with some Jewish theologians.
    Debra wrote: “It’s interesting that
for all the separations Judaism makes—kosher and not, light and
dark, holy and profane, six days of the week and the Sabbath—there
is not that same strong thread of separating the concepts Heaven and
Hell. I was taught that we make our own state of heaven and hell here
on earth—by our actions, by our relationships, our choices.
    “Death? Again life has been given so much more of a focus—the ‘l’chaim!’ mindset. Not
that Judasim shrinks from discussions of death. It’s there. It’s a
part of life and there is that teaching that we are to live as if we
would die tomorrow. In other words live as Bishop Spong said—loving
wastefully. I don’t know that I love the ‘wastefully’ term but I can
certainly understand loving and acting lovingly with abandon.
    “Is
it death that scares us or dying? Becoming old and infirm and in pain
and incapcitated, a wasting burden and of no use? Leaving behind loved
ones? My immortality is in the Parents Blessing that we recite to the
kids even now, every Friday night. I feel this very keenly. We have
blessed them every Shabbat they can remember and even those they
don’t.
    “When they bless their children one day (please G’d
this happens!) if I’m not alive any longer, I will nevertheless return
to them each week, my voice in the prayers they say over their own
children, my hands on their heads, my eyes looking into theirs. The
memory of me will be visceral at that moment. I will be there for
them. If I’ve done anything as a parent, I’m most glad that we chose
those moments of blessing. Ever more keenly, when I am able to bless
them in person, it is truly a moment of Heaven on Earth.
    “Kudos again for such wonderful work.”

THREE H’s 
DOMINATE THE WEEK:
Heaven. Healthcare. Halloween.

      HEAVEN: All week long, readers have been buzzing about our stories on Heaven.
    Readers thanked us for offering an excerpt from Jack Spong’s new book on Monday.
    On Tuesday, readers contacted us hoping that we will tell them when (and if) the new movie we recommended is released on DVD. We also heard from readers hoping friends and family in Chicago will check out the Chicago Children’s International Film Festival. (The festival link is in our main movie story.)
    AND, if you’ve got a Christian youth group meeting this weekend, check out our special Heaven-themed edition of the new “free” Bible Here and Now Web site.

     HALLOWEEN: While it’s true that Jack Spong sparked some fireworks this week, generally ReadTheSpirit is an amazing public forum for discovering spiritual links between cultures.
    That’s what happened with our Halloween story!
    A personal note of apology to one family of readers, this week, who Emailed links to this story to relatives—precisely when one version of this story went “down” for a short bit. Sorry. It was just a momentary glitch. If you missed it, jump back and read our Halloween tips for non-Christian families.

    FINALLY, HEALTHCARE: Don’t miss the last story in Dr. Wayne Baker’s provocative examination of Healthcare Reform this week at www.OurValues.org—a very important section within our ReadTheSpirit magazine.
    All week, Dr. Baker has been reporting on some enlightening ideas raised at a University of Michigan Ford School roundtable of experts.
    But today, Dr. Baker reports on an important new campaign based on the moral imperative of “health” in a democracy. Check out today’s story and share your thoughts on this important new campaign.

PLEASE TELL US WHAT YOU THINK:

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free and you can cancel it any time you’d like to do so. The Planner
goes out each week to readers who want more of an “inside track” on
what we’re seeing on the horizon, plus it’s got a popular “holidays”
section.

    Not only do we welcome your notes—but our readers enjoy them as well. You can do this
anytime by clicking on the “Comment” links at the end of each story.
You also can Email ReadTheSpirit Editor David Crumm. We’re also reachable on Twitter, Facebook, Amazon, YouTube and other social-networking sites as well.
    (Originally published at https://readthespirit.com/)